I am not only writing this post on behalf of myself but of dozens(+) of women who live here and are wondering the same thing. Where are the men?!
I am worried. "Where have all the good men gone? "
Our age is from 20 to 35- average. We are young, adventurous, responsible, professional, and much more. Seeking love, stability, more adventure, and commitment. We are in the prime of our lives and many of us are looking for a person to share, grow, and start a life with. Pretty humanistic right?
*By professional- I don’t mean a suit and tie is a must- but a job/ source of income, etc. Plaid shirts are great too!
Many women I know are at a point in their lives where they are wanting to settle down with a partner. They do everything that one is supposed to when looking for a mate: go to concerts, the movies, skiing, hiking, running, kayaking, Cows, breakers, house parties, the list could go on.
Instead they find empty movie theaters, abandoned hiking trails, concerts at the Lester Center filled with young families and seniors, Cows full of gossiping women, and house parties with gay men, or men with drug or alcohol problems. Pot and coke have been the most common addictions I’ve found here. ( Not that I use them). And not that we’re against homosexual men (at all) or that we’d hate you if you do pot or coke occasionally- it’s just not a part of our lifestyles- nor do we want it to be and we don’t want to have to settle for it. I could add video games in there as well-
Men who are emotionally and financially stable and motivated- I really don’t think this is too much to ask. I’m sure there are wonderful men in Rupert who have just snuck under the radar. But when you are in the prime of your life- moving out of it slowly- with NO prospects of a reliable man to one day possibly start a family with- it’s a scary thing.
Things have changed in Prince Rupert. It is no longer the town we women once romanticized. The loggers, fishermen, and hippy/ “back to the landers”, have moved on- generations ago. I had hoped that once Rupert began booming again- the men would return- the sexy, responsible, industrial men of days old- coming back to work at the port or Ridley Island perhaps.
But I have not experienced such a wave. Instead a wave of professional women, wondering the same things as myself. They try to find someone on vacations, seeking as many opportunities to travel and find “the one” out of town. But that has not been enough for them. Perhaps luck wasn’t on their side during the time out of town- but it is no better in town. They are starting to want to move away- so personally- I am not only missing the man in my life but my friends as well- who have moved/ are moving away in search of their own!
Is this a problem in the entire north- or just Prince Rupert? I remember reading an article in Northwords magazine years ago about this very topic- I believe the author was from Smithers.
Perhaps we need to redefine Prince Rupert’s image of a rough, manly fishing village- to one where men may go to find adventure among the women.
For me, when women are leaving town because a lack of men- that is a sign of bad times. How much longer will it last? When will all the good men return- or come out of hiding?!
Thanks for reading- any suggestions- let us know!