[quote=“Subz332”]I’m sorry I read this and had to vent. Me and my common law GF moved here 2 1/2 years ago. We also arrived with 2 other families we knew quite personally over the years. At first we rented, but after not
getting along with the upstairs renters because of them not picking up their dog crap (im not a Nazi, it was EVERYWHERE) we decided to purchase a home despite the high property taxes and lack of services.
hooooo boooy was I nutz. We get a cheapo house fixer upper kind of place and think we have found heaven. We move in and everything’s good for awhile. I suppose that “out of towners” are not welcome here just our money. I go to mow my lawn and to my shock it was already mowed. Weirdest thing ever to complain about I know. I ask the neighbor and she said she did it always has done it and thats the way it is. No way im letting someone do that without some kind of repayment so I offer to weed whack the side of her home and garage. She looked like I punched her in the gut from her expression and mumbled response.
So i weed whack her home as I am not sure the proper protocol for a situation like this and don’t want to come off as a “gimme” kind of person. the next day she wont even say hello or wave, and the next time the lawn gets mowed on her side ours is left alone. Perfect. Then im in the office with the window open a few days later , working away like I do everyday, and I hear the woman talking to the neighbor stating " I don’t think (my name) he works." and since that time she makes a weekly appearance in the alley and runs me down to the neighbor using my name and my GF’s name saying some terribly crude things. She seems aware of the fact I can hear her and seems to get off on it, as I close the window every time she starts up. I’m sorry but I take pride in the life I live and if it makes me sound like a pussy, i dont care, it hurt, and one particular comment about my hard working kind GF hurt the worst “You have to wonder whats wrong with (her name) to stay with a guy like that.” I would like my neighbors to at least respect us here.Just because I work from home for 6 months of the year and the rest is spent away at camp, up north, in my eyes does not warrant such scrutiny. then all the surrounding neighbors have let their animals shit the lawn up (look I understand dogs don’t always go where their supposed to but stepping in dog crap 4-6 times every time, when you mow the lawn and it gets a little frustrating standing there holding a weed whacker covered in your neighbors dog shit). Thing is all of my neighbors own at least 2 dogs each. No problem. I observe these animals left alone on the ol chain 24/7 until about 6 or 7 and they gets let off to do their business. They don’t go on their own property they ALL go in my lawn. I have tried to politely show its not welcome by going out and shoveling it up and disposing of it. They dont seem to enjoy dog crap on their perfectly manicured lawns so why is it acceptable to do it on mine? at least let them do their business on your own lawn. I have tried to politely state to all of the neighbors at one point or another that its tough to clean it up all the time. None have denied (thank god) its their animal and one even apologized, an old man, coolest guy ever. However this has changed nothing. I come from the country and let me tell you, people love their animals. This behavior and neglect, isn’t unheard of, but generally speaking its pretty rare. You cant chain a dog up for the day. You cant let your dog go running across the high traffic road unattended to shit up the neighbors lawn every night, and you cant use your dog as a weapon to piss the neighbor off. Fuck the bylaws, even though they agree with me, the respect of others should rule the day. From my perspective if your to chicken shit to ask about your neighbors life if your so curious, then why should I come forth with that info? From what I see, fear of someone different then themselves, sense of entitlement, and lack of respect rule this community. I even took some courses to involve myself in the community and its tourism trade out of respect of where I was. You Prince Ruperton’s, at least the ones teaching the course, seem to be aware that things are in a little decline I was even told in no uncertain terms that “its because of all the new people.” by the course instructor, why this place is the way it was. I was shocked. Am I not new? am I not in your course trying to educate myself about things to do here in the event that a tourist asks me, in support of this community? I have had enough. The gossip, lack of respect for animals, and general small mindedness rule your community. My friends I have arrived with are gone from THE EXACT SAME REASONS. Now me and the GF are here by ourselves and now were leaving too. In fairness I dont wish to offend any kind or respectful people here. I know your out there I’ve met a few. I also do not wish to portray this beautiful area as a hell hole either. This was just MY EXPERIENCE and opinion. Oh, and for a few (you know who you are) of my fellow white people… a lesson for you here, the generous Native communities you so love to address as “bum’s” “drunks” and “losers” have been your only saving grace. They welcome your tourists, stimulate your struggling economy and are just simply awesome to us “outsiders”. One fellow I met even GAVE me the nicest cut of halibut ive ever seen for free. I had to get him something in return so i bought him a nice warrior hoodie. He called me his brother. You pass your insecurities to your children and they grow up just like you hating. I have never seen such a barrier between to different peoples as I have here. I’m sure with a few exceptions, there’s the white people and then the Natives. Its a shame after all it is 2012 not 1902. Sorry for the wall of text as i finish this i feel somehow better.[/quote]
Sorry for your crappy experiences – this sounds like my neighborhood minus the partiers. I cried for many years after arriving because the locals didn’t seem to like newcomers. But, gradually people saw that we were here to stay and I started making friends who now, I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. I don’t know why this town is like it is. The “new” people are the saving grace, bringing modern ideas and processes to the workplace. PR doesn’t like change, even if it’s what we need to move forward. We refuse to adapt to the 'PR ways" however, it’s like a rotten cousin - you respect them for their good points and stay our of their way – dance to your own drummer and let the world go on by. Good luck with adapting or finding a new town that I hope treats you both better.